Family Dynamics

God Cares About the Ooey-Gooey days

What a hoot to look back at this picture.  I know!  What’s up with my hair? This article was published ...
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Should I send my child to Public School?

I’ve held off on this question for several years.  I know a lot of devout Christian men and women who ...
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The Roots of nasty Political Correctness

Political correctness, like so many other traits, has it’s origins in parenting style.  When parents overly concentrate on their child’s ...
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Your child’s health in and out of the year round pool

I’m so grateful that Pat Sarmiento contacted me about hidden safety concerns for children and pools.  I’ve worked with parents ...
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Screaming kids and crowded stores

I was rushing through a store hoping to get home early enough to wrap a couple of presents before cooking ...
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To Spank or Not to Spank

Spanking has made the news with the alarming pictures of Adrian Peterson, the NFL player who used a switch, or ...
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10 Ways to Inspire Your Child to Read

While sipping a cup of coffee this morning, I watched a school bus pick up several excited children.  I prayed ...
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“Without Prejudice” doesn’t exist

A very concerned woman asked several questions about her parenting goals.  One of my answers seemed to make her angry ...
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Mommy Bill of Rights

Every Caregiver should have a Bill of Rights.  I’ve written a bill of rights for mothers that can be tweaked ...
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Illogical thinking will cause Rebellion

Logic is the most important thing you can teach your children. If you have a list of attributes you want ...
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HAPPY FATHER’S DAY

Honorable Father’s are just as important to the future of our children as mother’s are.  Watching father’s lead their families ...
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Doubt can cause Rebellion or Violence

Rebellion and violence are complicated issues.  Your home can be free of rebellion and violence but you must start early ...
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A Child’s Faith

Shirley and Marcy A mother was concerned about her kindergarten son walking to school without supervision. He insisted he didn’t ...
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Can I live without Cable TV?

We finally did it!  I’ve been thinking about this issue for over a year and we finally did it.  We ...
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Every Violent Abuser is Selfish and Lazy

If you have a blog or a WordPress site – you may have experienced the latest million dollar theft.   ...
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Growing with God and honoring Mother!

Happy Mother’s Day! I am honored to announce that two more of my articles have been posted on Today’s Christian ...
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Is it okay to yell at my children?

I know a lot of people who give in to the urge to “yell” at their children.  Because they view ...
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Sugar Free Easter Basket

Are you looking for a way to avoid candy this Easter. If you are like me you may want to ...
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Tickles for your Funny Bone

“Success is not the key to happiness.  Happiness is the key to success.”   ~ Albert Schweitzer ‘*’~‘*’~‘*’~‘*’~‘*’~‘*’~‘*’~‘*’~‘*’~‘*’~‘*’~‘*’~  A vacationer ...
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How to improve toddlers motor skills using yarn?

Are you a crafter? Are you a want-to-be crafter with a pile of yarn that has never been crocheted into ...
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Are you a frustrated exhausted parent?

Once upon a time a young mother was exhausted and frazzled.  She cried as her four-year-old continued to scream his ...
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Frustration causes teen rebellion and anger

 If a child receives everything he wants, making decisions will be difficult and frustrating.  Selfish children want it all and ...
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Confusion causes Rebellion and violence

It’s important for every parent to see the world through their child’s eyes.  You will never be able to help ...
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Tickles for your funny bone

Things in life that count the most are the things that cannot be counted.      ‘*’:~     ‘*’:~     ‘*’:~     ‘*’:~     ‘*’:~ A husband went to buy ...
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Why Do Teens Rebel? – Cause #2

Teen Rebellion is a complicated issue.  It can be prevented but you must start early.  In my book, Discipline Exposed, ...
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Today’s Christian Woman – new articles by Debbie

Several new articles have posted to Today’s Christian Woman. Feeling Like the Runner-Up Despite how we feel on those crazy ...
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Why are teens rebellious?

“I need your help.  I’m afraid.  I have two children ages 6 and 8.  They are a handful and very ...
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How to Make a Noodle box – Pediatrician check list

The next time you go to make macaroni and cheese for your family let the noodles slide between your fingers ...
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Tickles for Your Funny Bone

My Dear friend Darlene sends me a thought, a giggle and a laugh every day. She has graciously agreed to ...
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11 Facts Used to Combat Violence – Clue #8

The Gun Control debate is still raging.  I receive e-mails every day explaining that this politician or that has introduced ...
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9 Ways to Give Medication to Toddlers

There is nothing harder than wrestling with a toddler while trying to give medicine.  I’ve tried everything!  Of my three ...
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3 Reasons for Home Pre-school – a better choice for better grades

In his State of the Union address Mr. Obama announced that he wanted Federal required pre-school training for children.  I’m ...
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How to Make a Fabric Box – Another tool for the Pediatrician check list

One cold winter day I stood by the window to enjoy the last few drops of my deliciously warm pumpkin ...
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5 easy steps to help your child successfully change routines

“When my children have to change their routine, they have issues.  How can I make changing routines easier and less ...
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HAPPY VALENTINES DAY !!!

Happy Valentines Day to all those who are in love.  To couples, to single parents who love their children, to ...
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Fill Your Future with Love – Sir Winston Churchill

Winston Churchill (1874-1965) was best known for his refusal to surrender to Hitler during WWII.  He was even more stubborn ...
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Violence in America – Clue #7 Neuro-pathyway ruts

Your brain is full of Neuro-pathways that often have deep “ruts”. No, I’m not being mean.  It’s true.  We all ...
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What Are Squishy Sensory Bags

Have you ever stood in the wet sand and enjoyed squishing the sand between your toes? How about the time ...
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Happy Birthday Ronald Reagan

Ronald Reagan was a great president. Happy Birthday to a great man!   I am honored and privileged to have lived ...
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Violence in America – Clue #6 The Creative brain and copy cats

Let’s recap what we have so far.  Our brain is Repetitive, addictive, always influenced by senses, we transfer information to ...
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Child’s Play – How to teach your child to be creative

When someone says “Oh, that’s child’s play” they are convinced that the action is easy enough that a child can ...
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How to help your child deal with Fear and Anxiety

“We just transferred to a new school district and now my son is having anxiety about going to school.  How ...
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Stages of Growth – Nine months

Remember that the ages we talk about are general and extremely flexible.  Your child’s ability to follow the crowd with ...
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Pediatrician developmental checklist – How to make Discovery Bottles

This week we went to a check up appointment for my 10 month old. At each appointment the pediatrician goes ...
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Eight steps to an Anger Free Home

“Thanks for your post on Parents can prevent violent behaviors.  I think I understand your teaching, but I have two ...
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You might be a great parent if you….

Sometimes good parenting isn’t what you do….sometimes it’s more important what you DON’T do. Let’s have a little fun and tweak a statement ...
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Parents can prevent Violent Behavior

“Hi Debbie,  Thanks for all the posts on Violence in America.  I plan to follow this series and get the ...
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Violence in America – Clue #5 Senses

The brain will always respond to stimuli.  While there is no meaningful response even a comotose patient may respond in some ...
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Baby Talk

My daughter is now an adorable 10 month old. She is learning so much at this age. It seems as ...
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Violence in America – Clue #4 Addictions

Thanks to everyone who sent get well messages.  I’m on the mend and doing much better today. Addictions Your brain is ...
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Violence in America – Clue #3 How we transfer information

How we transfer information Clue #3 Our brains constantly “transfer” pieces of information and slide those pieces into different areas of ...
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Violence in America – Repetition Clue #2

Take a closer look at the expanded arm “How the Brain Works”.  At first glance you might think that I’ve ...
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Stages of Growth – Six Months

Remember that the ages we talk about are general and extremely flexible.  Intelligence is not dependent on your baby’s ability ...
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Dr. Keith Ablow – We are raising a generation of deluded narcissists

I found this article by Dr. Keith Ablow  http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2013/01/08/are-raising-generation-deluded-narcissists/ and will refer to it when we talk about several arms of ...
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Violence in America – Clue #1

Please refer to the “categories” list in the right column of this website.  There you will find a category titled ...
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Gun Control won’t fix Sandy Hook Violence

On December 14, 2012 the world watched in horror as pure evil visited Sandy Hook Elementary.  We prayed.  We cried ...
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Training the Inner child

A Cherokee Elder was teaching his grandchildren about life. He said to them, “a fight is going on inside me…it ...
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Children and the holidays

Parents try to live a fairytale during the holidays.  Many parents believe that if you spend enough money, put up ...
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Work Is Happiness

Work is Happiness by Dr. Ken Crocker was published by the Atlanta Journal in the 1960’s. Work Is Happiness by ...
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Holiday Stress

Last night (12/18/2012) I was a guest on  the “Your Weekly Checkup” radio show in Ann Arbor, Michigan.  We had ...
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The Best Gift

Merry Christmas! I am looking forward to the important gifts of Christmas.  The ones that last a lifetime.  The gift ...
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Sandy Hook Children

As I said in my last post, I won’t comment on the “whys” of the Sandy Hook tragedy for a ...
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A prayer for Sandy Hook Elementary

Many people want to know why our society could produce such evil.  Why and how could this happen?  In the ...
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Holiday Parenting

As we approach the holidays I hear the same old complaints. Adults squash their child’s ability to find the positive ...
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A child’s viewpoint

My Christian training probably began when I was born.  Mom and dad were evangelists at that time so I practically ...
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Red Birds and Peace

While staying with my out of town parents, I had to deal with their dementia.  It was bad enough that ...
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God Bless Baby America

I’m in the living room with my laptop on my lap.  My neck is stiff and sore.  I tossed and ...
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My race, Your race, God’s race

I have the great privilege of witnessing three worlds.  The first world was America until my 30’s.  It was a ...
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I know who holds tomorrow

I’m an only child.  Both parents are ministers and I was raised in church.  I loved it.  I loved the ...
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Rare Earth by Davis Bunn

  Rare Earth By Davis Bunn Davis Bunn is becoming one of my favorite authors.  Not just because I like ...
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Honesty – #1 on Decoder Map

In order to be successful, you must look at your life honestly.  If you refuse to be “honest” about the ...
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Does God Use Twitter?

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com Does God Use Twitter? How often are our prayers in 140 characters? by Debbie Jansen ...
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Desensitized Christians

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com Desensitized Christians With news of yet another school shooting, why are our hearts no longer ...
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Does Alzheimer’s Let Us off the Hook in Our Relationships?

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com Does Alzheimer’s Let Us off the Hook in Our Relationships? Figuring out the mess of ...
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Me and a Red Corvette

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com Me and a Red Corvette How God used a sneaky prayer to bless my husband.  by ...
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The Ageless Christmas Project

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com The Ageless Christmas Project A fun and easy way to bring lasting giggly joy to someone ...
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You Did What?

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com You Did What? How to handle your spouse’s annoying habits. by Debbie Jansen Marriage has a ...
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Just One of Those Days

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com Just One of Those Days Everything was going wrong, my husband was no help—and I discovered ...
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The Reinvention of Ken

This site is all about finding solutions for your life.  Sometimes acquiring great solutions is a matter of finding the ...
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Goof-Proof Christmas

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com Goof-Proof Christmas Tips to minimize stress and focus on what matters this Christmas. by Debbie Jansen ...
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Do You See Me?

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com Do You See Me? Recognizing your spouse’s hidden sacrifices—and saying thanks. by Debbie Jansen I ...
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Love Is Not a Bargain

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com Love Is Not a Bargain There is no quid pro quo in selflessness.  by Debbie Jansen ...
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A Little Mother’s Day Reality

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com A Little Mother’s Day Reality Despite their sticky-sweet reputation, moms are more like stew than dessert ...
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Does Faith Hide Marital Abuse?

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com Does Faith Hide Marital Abuse? Too often spouses allow abuse because of twisted theology and ...
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Who are you? Designing your personal Decoder Map

You can’t possibly change your life until you know who you are.  If you make an appointment with an expensive ...
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We Can Change America and The World!

In 2009 I wrote a booklet titled, “Mommy Patriots”.  It was in response to the media, Nancy Pelosi and other ...
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Dirty Diapers can build relationships

When a new baby enters your home, it brings the thrill of a lifetime.  You have created (or adopted) a ...
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Free Book – It’s All About Him by Denise Jackson

For the month of October – The Mommy Detective is giving away a free book – It’s All About Him ...
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Hold Your Child – An important solution for health

One of the most exciting studies I’ve ever read came from a supplemental reading list for a psychology class at ...
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Stages of Growth 0-3 months

**The times and dates included in the category “Stages of Growth” are only averages of what children will do.  If your ...
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“Hidden in Dreams” by Davis Bunn

Hidden in Dreams is a new fiction novel by best selling author Davis Bunn.  It is an exciting ride into ...
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Can too much love corrupt your child?

Ron and I had a wonderful evening together.  I fixed coconut cream pudding, coffee and we watched TV.  It’s always ...
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Cleanup Game

Have you ever asked your kids to clean up and found it was like hearding cats. One child disappears into the ...
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Sidewalk Painting

WOW! It is hot this summer! I am reminded of summers with the day care children. The kids loved to ...
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Divorce and Childhood confusion

There are situations where divorce is valid.  Even if your faith teaches otherwise, no one should ever stay in a ...
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Coffee Frappe

I love coffee in the morning. I am not awake until I get my hot, steamy cup of coffee. During ...
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Teen Rebellion

Teen Rebellion has disrupted lives, devastated parents and taken the joy out of family relationships. While some parents give up, ...
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“Why” the Key to a better life

Living a life of content may seem like a good place to live.  In actuality sitting on the sidelines of ...
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Hot Flash Fear

(Re-posted from my Author’s Just Write blog) I’m 57 years old and very secure in my life. I have a great family ...
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Parenting Leaders

You can’t believe a lie, build your parenting strategy on that lie and expect to get successful results.  It’s important ...
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Two critical tools for successful parenting!

Some parents worry their skills can never be as good as professional counselors or psychologists.  Some of my clients are ...
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The four word cuss phrase

I was in a store recently and I heard a mother fussing with her child. Mom’s attire was professional and ...
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Can I speak to Mom?

Yesterday I spent most of the day counseling with family and friends. Don’t worry – no major problems – just ...
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The Writer’s Waiting Game

Writing is a business.  You can’t make money if you don’t write quickly and submit even quicker.  The more I ...
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Hot Flash Fear

I’m 60 years old. I’m very secure in my life. I have a great family who loves me and is proud ...
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A few funnies….

If laughter, love and compassion fill your home,your children will always return. Every week I post jokes and quotes from ...
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Spousal relationships influence children

Children are like sponges. They will absorb everything in their environment. As Mommy detectives we must evaluate every part of ...
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Why should I become a Mommy Detective?

Good Question! Life is all about asking good questions isn’t it? Like detectives, if we don’t ask the right question ...
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Love is Not A Bargain

Love can be the most beautiful experience of life.  Misunderstood love can also be the biggest disappointment in life.  When ...
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Darlene’s Daily

I have a friend in her 90’s that gets up at 4:30 am every day to design an encouraging e-mail.  ...
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Just do it! Just Write!

Writing is the most rewarding thing I do. Writing is the hardest thing I do. Writing both excites and hurts ...
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Is intelligent thought dead?

On this site we are learning how to look at the world differently.  With Evidence boards and Clue Charts we ...
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Case Study – Love is not about finances

A couple had been married for eight years.  Their marriage looked happy and had produced a son and a daughter.  They ...
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Fact Sheets – You are the Expert

Contemporary psychology, the scientific community and political figures want to tell you what to do.  Every new book suggests that their ...
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Fact Sheet – Influence on Society

Every day you and your child are bombarded with images of negative behavior.  There is no escaping the “FACT” that ...
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Are you God’s wife?

You may have already seen this, but I felt it was important to post again.  In our busy lives we ...
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The Mommy Detective

The Evidence Board

In order to build your case and make a good decision, it’s important to start with a general overall Evidence ...
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Mommy Boredom / Discouragement

Many moms complain that while they love their children, most of their days are overloaded with work, repetition and boredom.  ...
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