Case Studies

Should I send my child to Public School?

I’ve held off on this question for several years.  I know a lot of devout Christian men and women who ...
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The Roots of nasty Political Correctness

Political correctness, like so many other traits, has it’s origins in parenting style.  When parents overly concentrate on their child’s ...
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Your child’s health in and out of the year round pool

I’m so grateful that Pat Sarmiento contacted me about hidden safety concerns for children and pools.  I’ve worked with parents ...
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Screaming kids and crowded stores

I was rushing through a store hoping to get home early enough to wrap a couple of presents before cooking ...
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To Spank or Not to Spank

Spanking has made the news with the alarming pictures of Adrian Peterson, the NFL player who used a switch, or ...
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10 Ways to Inspire Your Child to Read

While sipping a cup of coffee this morning, I watched a school bus pick up several excited children.  I prayed ...
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“Without Prejudice” doesn’t exist

A very concerned woman asked several questions about her parenting goals.  One of my answers seemed to make her angry ...
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Doubt can cause Rebellion or Violence

Rebellion and violence are complicated issues.  Your home can be free of rebellion and violence but you must start early ...
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Is it okay to yell at my children?

I know a lot of people who give in to the urge to “yell” at their children.  Because they view ...
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Confusion causes Rebellion and violence

It’s important for every parent to see the world through their child’s eyes.  You will never be able to help ...
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Why Do Teens Rebel? – Cause #2

Teen Rebellion is a complicated issue.  It can be prevented but you must start early.  In my book, Discipline Exposed, ...
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Why are teens rebellious?

“I need your help.  I’m afraid.  I have two children ages 6 and 8.  They are a handful and very ...
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11 Facts Used to Combat Violence – Clue #8

The Gun Control debate is still raging.  I receive e-mails every day explaining that this politician or that has introduced ...
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3 Reasons for Home Pre-school – a better choice for better grades

In his State of the Union address Mr. Obama announced that he wanted Federal required pre-school training for children.  I’m ...
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Fill Your Future with Love – Sir Winston Churchill

Winston Churchill (1874-1965) was best known for his refusal to surrender to Hitler during WWII.  He was even more stubborn ...
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Violence in America – Clue #7 Neuro-pathyway ruts

Your brain is full of Neuro-pathways that often have deep “ruts”. No, I’m not being mean.  It’s true.  We all ...
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Happy Birthday Ronald Reagan

Ronald Reagan was a great president. Happy Birthday to a great man!   I am honored and privileged to have lived ...
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Violence in America – Clue #6 The Creative brain and copy cats

Let’s recap what we have so far.  Our brain is Repetitive, addictive, always influenced by senses, we transfer information to ...
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How to help your child deal with Fear and Anxiety

“We just transferred to a new school district and now my son is having anxiety about going to school.  How ...
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Pediatrician developmental checklist – How to make Discovery Bottles

This week we went to a check up appointment for my 10 month old. At each appointment the pediatrician goes ...
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Eight steps to an Anger Free Home

“Thanks for your post on Parents can prevent violent behaviors.  I think I understand your teaching, but I have two ...
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You might be a great parent if you….

Sometimes good parenting isn’t what you do….sometimes it’s more important what you DON’T do. Let’s have a little fun and tweak a statement ...
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Parents can prevent Violent Behavior

“Hi Debbie,  Thanks for all the posts on Violence in America.  I plan to follow this series and get the ...
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Violence in America – Clue #5 Senses

The brain will always respond to stimuli.  While there is no meaningful response even a comotose patient may respond in some ...
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Violence in America – Clue #4 Addictions

Thanks to everyone who sent get well messages.  I’m on the mend and doing much better today. Addictions Your brain is ...
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Violence in America – Clue #3 How we transfer information

How we transfer information Clue #3 Our brains constantly “transfer” pieces of information and slide those pieces into different areas of ...
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Violence in America – Repetition Clue #2

Take a closer look at the expanded arm “How the Brain Works”.  At first glance you might think that I’ve ...
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Dr. Keith Ablow – We are raising a generation of deluded narcissists

I found this article by Dr. Keith Ablow  http://www.foxnews.com/opinion/2013/01/08/are-raising-generation-deluded-narcissists/ and will refer to it when we talk about several arms of ...
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Violence in America – Clue #1

Please refer to the “categories” list in the right column of this website.  There you will find a category titled ...
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Gun Control won’t fix Sandy Hook Violence

On December 14, 2012 the world watched in horror as pure evil visited Sandy Hook Elementary.  We prayed.  We cried ...
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Training the Inner child

A Cherokee Elder was teaching his grandchildren about life. He said to them, “a fight is going on inside me…it ...
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Children and the holidays

Parents try to live a fairytale during the holidays.  Many parents believe that if you spend enough money, put up ...
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Work Is Happiness

Work is Happiness by Dr. Ken Crocker was published by the Atlanta Journal in the 1960’s. Work Is Happiness by ...
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Holiday Stress

Last night (12/18/2012) I was a guest on  the “Your Weekly Checkup” radio show in Ann Arbor, Michigan.  We had ...
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Honesty – #1 on Decoder Map

In order to be successful, you must look at your life honestly.  If you refuse to be “honest” about the ...
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Does God Use Twitter?

Reprinted with permission from www.todayschristianwoman.com Does God Use Twitter? How often are our prayers in 140 characters? by Debbie Jansen ...
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Who are you? Designing your personal Decoder Map

You can’t possibly change your life until you know who you are.  If you make an appointment with an expensive ...
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Hold Your Child – An important solution for health

One of the most exciting studies I’ve ever read came from a supplemental reading list for a psychology class at ...
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Stages of Growth 0-3 months

**The times and dates included in the category “Stages of Growth” are only averages of what children will do.  If your ...
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Can too much love corrupt your child?

Ron and I had a wonderful evening together.  I fixed coconut cream pudding, coffee and we watched TV.  It’s always ...
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Divorce and Childhood confusion

There are situations where divorce is valid.  Even if your faith teaches otherwise, no one should ever stay in a ...
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Teen Rebellion

Teen Rebellion has disrupted lives, devastated parents and taken the joy out of family relationships. While some parents give up, ...
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“Why” the Key to a better life

Living a life of content may seem like a good place to live.  In actuality sitting on the sidelines of ...
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Parenting Leaders

You can’t believe a lie, build your parenting strategy on that lie and expect to get successful results.  It’s important ...
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Two critical tools for successful parenting!

Some parents worry their skills can never be as good as professional counselors or psychologists.  Some of my clients are ...
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The four word cuss phrase

I was in a store recently and I heard a mother fussing with her child. Mom’s attire was professional and ...
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A few funnies….

If laughter, love and compassion fill your home,your children will always return. Every week I post jokes and quotes from ...
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Spousal relationships influence children

Children are like sponges. They will absorb everything in their environment. As Mommy detectives we must evaluate every part of ...
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Why should I become a Mommy Detective?

Good Question! Life is all about asking good questions isn’t it? Like detectives, if we don’t ask the right question ...
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Case Study – Love is not about finances

A couple had been married for eight years.  Their marriage looked happy and had produced a son and a daughter.  They ...
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Fact Sheets – You are the Expert

Contemporary psychology, the scientific community and political figures want to tell you what to do.  Every new book suggests that their ...
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Fact Sheet – Influence on Society

Every day you and your child are bombarded with images of negative behavior.  There is no escaping the “FACT” that ...
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The Mommy Detective

The Evidence Board

In order to build your case and make a good decision, it’s important to start with a general overall Evidence ...
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