In order to solve your family’s drama you must determine the root cause of the drama. Without training your brain will make judgements based on circumstantial evidence. The brain usually makes these judgements quickly.
It isn’t as easy for your brain to take the time to search for hidden clues. For example, if you hear an alarm at the bank, you see a man running and he is swinging a large duffle bag – you may be quick to assume that he is a robber. Later when you see a medical patch on his arm and he’s taking care of a victim at the scene – your impression changes because you’ve received hidden information. That’s why it’s so important in any human interaction to search for the hidden clues.
Decoder maps can help to train your brain to consider the hidden facts. First, identify the problem and put it in the circle of importance.
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Use an evidence board (pros and cons list) to label each arm of your map.
Running off of each arm, list your Pieces of the puzzle. You can find these bits of facts by asking the questions – who, where, what, when and how.
Take time to look at each piece of the puzzle and ask, “What am I missing?” Under the microscope goes another step deeper by looking at each piece of the puzzle and asking, “What clues are lurking in this piece of the puzzle. The problem becomes clear and more defined the deeper you push into each area of the puzzle. The bigger your decoder map, the more chance you have to solve your problem completely.