Let’s recap what we have so far. Our brain is Repetitive, addictive, always influenced by senses, we transfer information to different sides of the brain – even if it’s corrupted and there’s no delete button.
Our brain is a marvelous muscle that can encourage us to reach our highest goals. But…the creative side of our brain can be a real problem when we want to find the truth. The creative side of our brain gives us the drive to find answers. Usually that’s a good thing. Having a need or a drive to find answers is the good part of our brain that creates determination and propels many people into success.
Unfortunately, since our brain can be corrupted with even the smallest amount of information – we can be fooled into doing something stupid even when the consequences are high. There are four ways our brain uses creativity to corrupt information.
- The brain has a hard time expecting something it hasn’t experienced. That’s why it’s hard for children who haven’t been stimulated educationally to believe that education can be fun. They have to be shown. If you try to “explain” it with words – they can’t imagine it. Try “explaining” what ice is to a person who has never seen it. They don’t have a frame of reference and therefore it’s impossible. Give them a piece of ice and it becomes a whole new experience.
- Our brain doesn’t naturally look for new information. When my children were younger they liked to say, “I can’t find it. It’s not in my room.” After finding the lost item under a book or a jacket thrown on the floor – I insisted they look under everything in their room. Several times I stood at the door and watched as they fussed and fumed while I pointed out new things to look under. Insisting that they learn “how” to look for items helped them to pay attention to what they see and to understand that things and “facts” hide under rocks. Once they were able to find “things” in their room, then we began to look for “facts” to support our beliefs.
- The brain is lousy at remembering the good stuff. Because pain is easier to remember, we are negative beings. We think the worst and expect failure. Even the strongest self-esteem will worry about failure when the stakes are high. It’s important to train yourself and your children to strive for the best and don’t let your worries about failure hurt your determination to succeed.
- Because we remember the bad before the good – train yourself and your children to be positive. You can do that by remembering the good. Take pictures, write in journals and recall the good times as often as possible. Remind yourself daily that even if you don’t have it all, even if you are struggling – your life can still be good and probably is better than most.
Most problems with dating, marriage, teen rebellion and probably 80% of crimes are all due to our basic need to be loved, respected, admired, rich, powerful or other driving needs. When a needy individual doesn’t know how to satisfy those needs with talent, intelligence or hard work – they turn to crime or force. The corrupted files in the brain urge that individual – “Pay attention – that act worked for him/her. Look at all the attention they received. Don’t pay attention to the problems. You’ll be smarter. You won’t get caught. You can do this and then you will be popular, newsworthy, rich, respected, loved or just famous.”
All of us – every human on earth – would prefer to have all their desires met without struggle and without consequences. When we realize that we can’t have everything we want, we have to adjust. Most people – good people – we adjust within the rules. We don’t want to risk adding insult to injury by being known as the thief, the murder, the liar. We would rather be known as a good person even if it means we don’t get what we want.
When a person allows corruption in the brain to guide their actions, their personal needs overshadow or hides the needs of others and the reality of consequences. That’s why a gang member who watched his brother die from a drive by shooting probably won’t leave the gang. His need to be accepted and to feel heroic by killing the shooter – those drives will keep him in the gang even if he fears police or his own death. The brain creates a new reality – You killed and that made you important. I will kill you and I’ll be more important than you. That’s also why we have copy cat crimes. When a sick individual watches the attention given to horrific events on television – they create the same media frenzy for themselves.
What’s the solution? Keep your mind pure. Force yourself to look for information that you don’t like or that may be hard for you to accept. Check your sources. Make sure the people who advise you don’t have ulterior motives and are respectable people as well. Make friends. Good friends. Make the kind of friends that will tell you when you are being a jerk. Accountability is a huge part of keeping your creative mind on the right track.
How can I help my child keep their mind creative without corruption?
- Monitor their environment. Remember every thought that enters the brain stays there. There is no delete button. When you know they have been exposed to corrupted information – attack it with truth. For example, when my children were teens we went to watch a favorite actor in a comedy. We laughed and had a good time. Unfortunately, I knew that 5% of the movie was a potential muddled thinking issue. On the way home I pointed out what was said in the movie and we discussed it. Planted beside the root of corruption was moms explanation of why that was wrong.
- Help them to be creative in their pursuit of excellence intellectually, spiritually, socially and physically. When you are successful with your personal talent, it’s harder to be persuaded to obtain popularity with corrupted thinking.
- Develop good communication with your child. You can’t see potential problems unless you are a part of their life. Talk about the latest trends. Talk about their schoolwork. Talk, talk, talk about their life. Make sure that at least 50-60% of your talk is positive. If you are always negative they probably won’t tell you their problems.
- When your child is having a rough day, help him/her be creative. Let them offer suggestions first. Let them try to solve the issue first. This will build their confidence and encourage them to be creative. When their ideas have been explored – then offer your own.
- Make it game for everyone to be creative – without corruption – in how they deal with life.
A good mind is a creative one. Protect your positive creative mind by refusing to allow negative thoughts or corruption to overshadow your thinking.